If you've talked with a family member this week you know there is disappointment in the air. Honor that feeling. It makes us sad not to come together to celebrate the very thing we value most in the world – our relationships. It hurts. We feel cheated, angry, afraid, as if we don’t want to get our hopes up for anything right now.
You miss the traditions, the food, the table decorating, the hours in the kitchen fussing over the stuffing, the family laughter, watching parades and football together and the hugs.
Ok. There. Let all that out. We can release that which we own. Name and own the disappointment.
Now let’s have some fun. What won’t you miss this year? The money you saved not doing mini makeovers in the house. Buying food that will get wasted – that you really don’t need or use. How your brother and sister-in-law don't help clean up. The uncomfortable moment when Grammie asks Matt when he is finally going to get married, or Stewart and Alicia when they’ll finally have a child, or you why her mother’s antique candlesticks she gave you are not on the table. And the angst you feel hoping the discussion doesn't turn to politics. (Where is Alec Baldwin when you need him?)
We have a large family and I used to think holidays weren't complete if someone was missing. Now I celebrate who is there, not lament over who is not.
We have six children – 5 girls and one boy. One of them has to self-quarantine because of possible exposure and most of them are just being cautious about travel. We have our only son with us who is thrilled he will have exclusive access to all the holiday baking I did. (Note – The freezer bags are already half empty and it is only Tuesday.)
I invite you right now to shift your perspective to what Thanksgiving it truly about, my friend. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday in the world. No presents. No worries. Just love and appreciation.
Traditions ground us in what we value – things we can count on. Nobody said you can’t create new traditions. Here are the new traditions our children set up for this year.
Here are me messages especially for you. I am grateful for you. I am grateful that you read my writing. I value you more than you will ever know. You inspire me to keep writing and sharing. I appreciate you for just how special you are to me. And don't ever forget that.
Time is not measured by the years that you live,
But by the deeds that you do and the joy that you give.
And each day as it comes brings a chance to each one,
To love to the fullest, leaving nothing undone,
That would brighten the life or lighten the load,
Of some weary traveler lost on life's road.
So what does it matter how long we may live,
If as long as we live we unselfishly give.
-Helen Steiner Rice
10 Mindful Ways to Give Thanks This Year:
I will be thinking of you Thanksgiving Day. And appreciating you every day. Love to you from me and my family.
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Your coach and friend,
P.S. Feel free to send this link to someone who could benefit from it. We are all walking down the same road in life looking for a hand to hold. Sometimes we must be the hand that reaches out.
Mary Lee Gannon, ACC, CAE is an executive coach and 19-year corporate CEO who helps leaders have more effective careers, happier lives and better relationships. Request a free consultation call.
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