This is Not Self Care
    I used to think self-care was my bubble bath or reading my self-help books after a crisis moment. While these provided a breath of fresh air they werenât helping me to deal with raw emotions in the moment.
    Do you see self-care as after-care? Do you wait until the let-down, crisis, doubt sets in and then try to play catch-up to snap you out of feeling inadequate and question why this pattern keeps happening to you?
    You deserve better. And only you can give that to yourself.
    Itâs freeing to be able to see the hurt coming, slow down, and be still. Still. Understand that things come and go. Emotions come and go. The important thing is to accept them all. Nod at them. Embrace them all - not turn away in fear. Then you can choose to do with them what you want verses being controlled by them.
    Fear will consume you to the point of convincing you that you donât want to feel it. Yet it does nothing but grow. As a matter of fact, fear will eventually convince you to s...
Do you feel invisible to Senior Leadership - and in your personal life?
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You have worked yourself to the point of exhaustion and youâre done with feeling undervalued. Top leaders seem to pass you over time and time again only to promote and give opportunities to those with less experience and results. Youâre getting resentful and noticing it affects your relationships, your weight and your sleep.Â
Youâre starting to believe you waited too long to make a career move. You think you've wasted time not developing transferable skills. Youâve been passed over so many times that you believe you arenât relevant anymore. You figure you are stuck where you are forever so maybe you should just give up on your dreams.Â
My personal mission is to see leaders with great character not have to doubt themselves any more - to help them rise to understand their inner wisdom and how to position it to thrive at work and in life. Â
This month I am opening 6 spots to join my new signature program - Corner Office Freedom - designed specifically for leaders who want to build t...
When It Makes You Cringe
Have you ever had a visceral reaction to a colleague where just to be around them made you cringe? Generally that discomfort is based in ego - your competitiveness gone haywire. We get triggered into fight-or-flight and our ego hates to lose. Â
Prepare before these encounters by anticipating the experience going well - where you shift from being defensive to being CURIOUS about HIS ego and need to be right or superior. Imagine if you could watch her arm wrestling her ego because that is exactly what is happening when people are mean - they are at war with themselves. Happy people do not hurt one another or seek attention.
Be the curious servant leader. âJean, I sense that Iâm not meeting your needs. I want to be helpful. If I were meeting your needs, what exactly would that look like?â She will likely not be able to be specific because sheâs so tied up in attention seeking ego. If she is specific youâll have great intel.
Your coach,
Mary Lee
P.S. Money replenishes itself. Time doe...
When Things Are Out of Your Control
Itâs human nature to look in the mirror and compare ourselves to the images our culture throws at us every day. Being young, successful, body beautiful and wealthy are what our society thrives on, reminding us of what we should aspire to be. And so, we invest in expensive products, clothes, gym memberships, degrees, makeup, youth enhancements and the like grasping to experience what these images project - happiness. Yet the U.S. remains the most depressed and overmedicated nation in the world.
When we look outside ourselves for acceptance and donât find it we reach for control as a lever of hope. A plethora of industries are happy to take your money to feed your need to belong among âthe pretty peopleâ yet after you buy the Prada handbag, MBA, Rolex watch and Mercedes as a solution to the void you feel and the initial thrill subsides you are still left with the same feeling of not being enough. More purchases of the same only leave the hole emptier. So, then we start trying to control...
The Seven Deadly Sins Leaders Commit That Hold Them Back
The Seven Deadly Sins is a group of vices within religious teachings that are known as excessive versions of one's natural faculties. Though identified by desert fathers in the third century as passions one needed to overcome, these shortcomings play out today in the workforce. And they can make you pretty scary to deal with.
- Pride that you are more capable than your employees. How gratifying is it to be dubbed âKing Know-It-Allâ when everybody hates your guts? When you make all the decisions and give continual directives it cuts off their independence and desire to take risks. Innovation suffers and disengagement grows. Hire good people and get out of their way.Â
- Sloth in your dedication to develop your personal growth and that of your team. You develop projects but how often do you develop your emotional intelligence? When was the last time you asked an employee, âWhere do you see yourself three years from now? What project would you like to develop?â What mindful routines do ...