We all have regrets. It’s healthy to reflect on what we’d do differently. I certainly regret some things I’ve said and done as I was figuring out the art and science of parenting. I’m still figuring it out and my children are in their twenties and thirties.😉 I regret how self doubt showed up in my behavior at work early in my career. I overreacted, withdrew and often blamed myself far more than was helpful.
Corporations today value, promote and hire for self-awareness because it makes the employee coachable. The more self aware we become the more we can release assumptions that hold us back before we adopt them as mantras. “He’s never going to respect my work.” “I’m always the one left out.” “Every time I try harder the same thing ends up happening.”
Notice the thread. “Never...” “Always...” “Every...” Absolutes are deadly to progress. If you hear yourself saying or thinking in these terms you’re victimizing yourself, grasping for perfection as you lean out from humility, and boxing yourself into frustration.
Identify your strengths and reword the victimization as an intention. An intention is simply a promise to yourself. “I will use my resourcefulness to create a plan that he will respect.” “I will use my sense of humor to be more at ease in my interactions and let people see the great things I have to offer. They may or may not include me but I’ll be more relaxed and authentic.” “I will work smart, not just hard, by anticipating opportunities instead of just addressing what’s urgent.”
Your executive presence builds with your self awareness and ability to self regulate in the moment so you don't do things you seriously regret. It takes practice. The payoff is better relationships all around, increased fulfillment and more peace.
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Mary Lee Gannon, ACC, CAE is an executive coach and 19-year corporate CEO who helps leaders have more effective careers, happier lives and better relationships. Request a free consultation call.
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