You know that head trash that keeps you up at night - I’ll never find the right job - I’m getting old - He doesn’t like me - I am stressed from work - She doesn’t love me - I’m not smart enough? Self-inquiry questions start the journey to clear a path through mind clutter for clarity:
Who am I?
What do I want?
What is my purpose?
How can I serve?
What am I grateful for?
This self-inquiry brings awareness of what is true to you - the open soul, free of assumptions and expectations.
You are not your thoughts, experiences, sensations. You are the observer of them - free of them whether positive or negative.
Don’t fake positive thinking. That is artificial. You’ve undoubtedly seen people trying too hard to be positive. “I can handle this. It will be fine,” when they really feel exhausted and defeated. Pretending only makes you more stressed. Admit and be curious about how you feel without attaching any future or judgement to it. “This is what it’s like to feel anxious. I wonder what I need to let go of in this moment.”
The awareness of anything is independent of that thing. The awareness of an experience or thought is independent of it. Consciousness is most alive when it is observing nonjudgmentally, instead of labeling things right, wrong, good, bad.
We spend our lives grasping desires and avoiding challenges - with our egos judging ourselves and other people. Mindfully observing like a fly on the wall is freedom. No ego. Only soul.
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Mary Lee Gannon, ACC, CAE is an executive coach and 19-year corporate CEO who helps leaders have more effective careers, happier lives and better relationships. Request a free consultation call.
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