This was definitely me - utterly exhausted as a single parent and sole provider of four children under seven and putting on that everything was ok. I felt judged, tired, inadequate, and ineffective at almost everything. I felt edgy, unhappy and anxious that I wasn’t doing enough or good enough.
Did I make time to take care of myself by reminding myself that I was awesome just as I was with all my imperfections? No way. No time. I just kept surviving and wearing myself down while pretending I was superwoman.
As I look back now I see that I already had everything I needed to be a great mom, employee, friend, and leader. I just needed to slow down enough to be gentle with myself in order to be gentle with others. I needed to listen and stop talking. I needed to be curious instead of judgmental because as I judged others I was judging myself far worse.
Take care of yourself first. All roads lead from there. Self-acceptance trumps all.
My leadership, relationships and happiness changed when I stopped being a victim and chose a mindful curiosity about myself and everything around me. I adopted mindful daily practices that keep me grounded and focused in curiosity about myself and others so that doubt, judgment and cynicism have no place to root. These routines are a world class workout for the mind. They instill confidence and executive presence for high performance and better connection with the people who matter. A great night’s sleep is a bonus.
Here is a link to the FREE Flow-on-the-Go Guide tool that I use everyday and that my executive coaching clients use to develop and sustain this evolution of happiness. Remember - Success is freedom. Not more hours.
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Mary Lee Gannon, ACC, CAE is an executive coach and 19-year corporate CEO who helps leaders have more effective careers, happier lives and better relationships. Request a free consultation call now.
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