In my executive coaching practice I help people build the most important skill to uplevel their career and happiness. Most people think that work ethic and resilience are the top indicators of success. Grit is indeed a valued skill. But at a certain level everyone has it. The most sought-after skill for executive advancement is self-awareness. It is most desired because it carries the ability to grow while managing emotions that get in the way of risk taking, feedback and success. There are two types of self-awareness: 1) being aware of your own thoughts, feelings and behaviors, and 2) being aware of how you are viewed by others.
Leaders are generally are aware of their thoughts but often underutilize their power to disengage from false assumptions that they’ve adopted as facts and end up being emotionally paralyzed from the negative feelings and low self-esteem that result. Competent and even confident leaders then wonder why they aren’t advancing, aren’t revered and aren’t effective. Eventually judgment inserts itself like a double edge sword into their perspective. They judge others and subliminally judge themselves the harshest - the perfect storm for career stagnation and unhappiness.
Everyone, including ourselves, wants to be heard. When we can accept ourselves with all our imperfections we can listen to understand and speak to be understood. This is crucial to personal and career growth. It requires compassion and self-compassion. Sometimes other people won’t be in a place to receive your compassion likely because they are stuck in the place of judgment. Be self-aware enough to give them compassion anyway. Don’t allow the darkness of judgment to dim your shine.
If you are feeling age discrimination when your company should be putting your expertise to good use, this link to the strategies I share with my clients might help >>> 10 Tips When You Fear Age Bias
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Mary Lee Gannon, ACC, CAE is an executive coach and 19-year corporate CEO who helps leaders have more effective careers, happier lives and better relationships. Request a free consultation call.
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