Ok - Intellectually we know we can't change what people say and can only change how we react. So, how do we stop overreacting, stop taking things personally, and stop the expectations and assumptions that leave us disappointed?
The answer is acceptance. Happiness is the shortest distance between what you want and what you have.
When we can observe our life and all our situations from a third part perspective without judgment there is a major shift to peace. It’s like watching a documentary of your life. It’s the fly on the wall perspective.
We accept others and situations at face value - not trying to change them or control them. And, most importantly, we accept ourselves the same.
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We don’t live in fear of all the things our thoughts tell us might happen.
We don’t feel unseen, invalidated, disregarded, irrelevant or as if we don’t matter.
We don’t wallow in all the guilt and blame we use to avoid what we don’t want to let go of.
We don’t adopt shame and then armour up against it with distancing, controlling and overbearing behavior.
Acceptance is being able to walk into any room, situation meeting, or interaction and know you are ok and belong. It’s your smile. It’s executive presence. It’s kindness, it’s compassion. It’s likability. It’s knowing. It’s your best self. It’s wisdom. freedom.
If this resonates with you let’s talk about how to get there. Respond to this message and I’ll send you a short career survey to get started.
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Mary Lee Gannon, ACC, CAE is an executive coach and 19-year corporate CEO who helps leaders have more effective careers, happier lives and better relationships. Request a free consultation call.
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